I have been in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend Paul for close to nine months now. He lives in a small town in Oklahoma about 250 miles from William Jewell (my college.) How did I meet him if he lives in Oklahoma, one might ask. I will tell you.
In the summer of 2007 I attended a church reunion in Miami, OK. I met many people from different branches of my church there, including Paul. I was 14, about to be a freshman in high school, and he was 17, about to be a senior. I talked to him a small amount, but we didn’t really know each other and didn’t talk for the rest of that year. The next summer, we both attended reunion again. This time, towards the end of the week, we were both going through some difficult emotional struggles and opened up to each other, instantly becoming good friends. Through the next three years, we were best friends, sharing everything with each other, mainly with very long emails, Facebook messages, and texts. Although we were not able to see each other very often, we maintained a bond that was stronger than that of any with our other friends.
The summer after my sophomore year, I began to see Paul as more than a friend. I didn’t want to ruin our best friendship however, so I did not say anything to him. After a few months I confided in my closest girl friend, but I made her promise not to say anything to him. Close to a year later, Paul and I saw each other at a church conference. Unbeknownst to me, Paul realized he had feelings for me at this time. Unfortunately, he also was afraid to ruin our friendship, so he did not say anything.
This summer, Paul and I again attended our church reunion, where we were inseparable for the entire week. Almost all of our friends believed we were already a couple, although we protested. When it was time to leave, it was very difficult to say goodbye, and we both were soon to be in tears. For three weeks after reunion, I prayed about our relationship. I felt that we should be together, but did not want to sacrifice our friendship if I was wrong. I asked for Paul to tell me his feelings first, as soon as I got back from a trip to Mexico that I was about to take, if we were indeed supposed to be together. All of that week I enjoyed my trip as much as possible, but my prayer was always in the back of my mind. Finally, I arrived home.
On July 16, 2011, my prayer was answered. My best friend told me his feelings for me, and we became an official couple. Now, about nine months later, we are still together. Although I miss him every day, our relationship is completely worth it. I have had couples who see each other every day tell me that they are jealous of our bond and communication. I know I am extremely blessed and I look forward to the next time I can see my amazing boyfriend. :) <3
Greg and I started dating junior year of high school. We went to junior and senior prom together, graduated together, and went off to college…nine hours away. I chose to leave the state because I knew we could handle the distance. He’s been so patient and understanding and the best any girl could ask for. We see each other every couple of months but during the summer we’re together every day. Now we’re sophomores, and I’m studying abroad in Australia…and it is the most difficult thing. We’re struggling with the time difference, and he’s extremely busy with school (engineering major). I’ve been missing him a lot lately, but we still continue on. I’m looking forward to a proposal within the next year, and I can’t wait! We’ve only got two years left to go before we can be together forever.
He waited for me for four year; I can wait for him too
So ever since high school I knew he liked me. Like since freshmen year lol but he never told me, but u know when its so obvious u just know lol but then I started dating this guy and so I guess he backed off. And yeah freshmen, sophomore, junior, and senior year he always had hope. Sophomore year he started dating this girl and they were together for the longest time…(later he confessed to me that he only stayed with her cause he saw that I was happy with bf (now ex) so he wanted to be happy too but he never really liked her I guess. and one time when I went to visit his mom (once we were dating) his mom told me that in front of them (my bf now) would say to his gf “Alma is the love of my life” I was like omg y would he say that to her. Even his mom told me that she was only a good time to him. But that he always said I was the love of his life..lol ok and junior year, second semester he switched his biology class to my hr, that year was the year me and bf (now ex) fought a lot and we’d break up and get back and all that non-sense, well id tell (my now bf) about my problems and that’s when he started hating him and that year is when he confessed to me that he liked me for the longest time hahah and I was like wat??? really??! lol I didn’t know! haha but I knew all along lmao but he stayed true to me after me and my ex got back and he still liked me all the way to senior year…and after senior prom me and my ex broke up. I didn’t tell anyone cause I didn’t want (my f now) to know lol cause I knew that he’d be on it lmao..and one day I hinted it to him cause he said something about me being on a leash and I was like what leash I’m not on an a leash! lol and then he wouldn’t leave me alone until I told him haha and after that we started talking in the summer…(he had enlisted to the marines early senior year so now there was nothing he could do but go) lol and so on July 24 he left for boot camp and I told him id wait for him.
They told me that he didn’t want to go anymore because of me and I remember our last phone conversation it was so sad…later I found out he cried after we hung up I did too though. And throughout the 3 months we would write to each other and on Oct. 21 he graduated. 4 years of waiting only to have to leave. But now we are dating and I’ve never been happier. He is in California and I am in the middle of the United States. Distance doesn’t affect us. and he made a promise after bootcamp that we wouldn’t go 2 months without seeing each other before he deployed and he’s been really good about it! I love him.
Valentine’s Day Surprise
Submission from : christineallison
I am in a long-distance relationship, we live in the same city..but he’s in school… not too far… 400 or so miles away… but we all know that feels like universes away, He comes back in April! He recently told me he loved me for the first time a couple days ago… I haven’t said it back yet. :/…For Valentine’s day I told him I had work… but I bought a plane ticket… I had asked his roommates for help keeping him out of his apartment… I’ve set up a small scavenger hunt starting with the hoodie he left me before he left.. the same one he let me wear the very first time we hung out. In the hoodie will be a note with a riddle.. .which will lead him to another…and then another… he’ll have to drive to various places, ask random people questions, and he’ll eventually reach a checkpoint where he’ll get my hotel room key. He’ll then have to call my sister for the address who’ll instruct him to call his brother who’ll tell him the exact room number… and then I’ll finally tell him… that I love him.
We’re driving back home together… and with his younger brother’s help, I’ve filled 67 balloons with different reasons why I love him…. one for each day we’ve been apart. Along with flowers, candy, chocolates, and rose petals…. This is the most I’ve ever done.. for anyone.
That is so adorable! That is going to be amazing! I’m so happy for the two of you.
You definitely have to tell me how this works out! :)
I don’t think it’s ridiculous at all! Right now, my bf and I are in a similar position. We’ve got 4-5 months left of living states apart but when I get back we’re still going to live “apart” because neither of us have our own homes. He’s lined up to get a job (in 6 months) that *might* be enough for us to live together. I’m pretty much job searching for anything I can get. We could probably afford to get a small apartment, but we really want to wait until we can afford a house. Even if it’s a small house or a fix-it-up house, it would be ours.
I totally understand. If I were in your position I would want to wait too. <3
I’m glad someone understands. Thank you so much for the support. I wish the two of you the very best!
Distance is not for the fearful~
My name is Chelsea Rae Nagel, I live in FLA and my lover is Douglas Paul Whiddon and he currently lives in GA, and we’re both nineteen years. I already know that I’ll be writing a ton, so forgive me; but I could go on and on and on about this guy… he’s changed me, he’s changed my life.
Our story starts back in 2004, we were both in middle school. We did the dating thing… I mean whatever you can do in middle school… and then we ”broke-up” and that was the end… next thing I knew I was in highschool and Douglas seemed to have dropped off the face of the earth… meanwhile, I got myself involved in a really terrible, unhealthy, dependent relationship with a guy that literally sucked the life out of me. But, I stayed in the relationship for 3 years because I was too comfortable and too scared to do anything different. But, I finally broke away right before my senior year and it was devastating. I went about my last year in highschool doing whatever made Chelsea happy, and that was that. Then college came around the following Fall, and again, I found myself ‘just doing me.’
The summer after my freshman year of college, I got thinking about Douglas for the first time in years and decided to add him on Facebook… he quickly accepted and messaged me. We talked on and off about life and what we had been up to. He seemed to really be into me, but I honestly was not interested in anyone, no matter how nice or polite or flattering. I was still crushed and guarded and untrusting. But, eventually I opened up, months later, and we started talking daily, texting daily and Skyping daily. I soon found myself falling in love with him, I adored every aspect of the being he was and he constantly told me he had already fell for me. He, to this day, tells me that as soon as he saw that friend request on FB, he was in awe of my beauty and wanted to desperately talk to me.
Anyhow, we started dating on 9.10.11 and we’ve been forced to do the long distance thing ever since. He came down to FLA over winter break, nearly 3 months into our relationship, and those 2 weeks I spent with him were beautiful. I love being around him and dwelling in his presence. He is everything I’ve ever wanted, and more…
I wondered ever since my ex and I had called it quits if I’d ever be able to allow myself to open up to another person and let them into my soul and learn my dreams, guarded thoughts, aspirations and deepest fears. I wondered if I’d ever allow myself to be that vulnerable again, because when you do, you’re allowing that person to potentially break everything you are, but trusting them not to. And at one point, I promised myself I wouldn’t let anyone close to me for a long, long time… and up until now, I haven’t.
I truly believe that throughout your life you will meet one person who is unlike any other. You can talk to this person for hours and never get bored, you can tell them things and they won’t judge you. This person is your soul mate and your best friend, don’t ever let them go. That person is hard to come across and doesn’t just fall in your lap… at least that’s what I believed until Douglas Paul Whiddon fell into mine. Loving him is the second best thing I’ve ever done. The first? Finding him. It was honestly like finding a beautiful flower in a field of weeds, so unexpected and perfect.
It’s crazy the moment that you realize how important someone is to you; when all of your thoughts are consumed by them and all your words revolve them. I adore everything about the person he is, absolutely everything. He and I have similar interests, values and personalities; I feel like he complements the individual I am, and I’ve never felt like that before with anyone I’ve been in a relationship with. I’ve always felt like I was trying to better them and their life, that I was constantly giving more to the relationship than I was getting out and consequently, I was slowly losing sight of myself. But this, this is different with Douglas… he is different.
I’ve always told myself that I would never stay with someone that didn’t tell me that I deserve the Universe, and THEN SOME. That I would never devote everything I was to someone who didn’t think twice about me and my needs. That I would never do anyone favors when all they do is make me sacrifice myself time and time again. Because the reality is, I deserve more than I ever used to give myself credit for and instead of holding myself to those things, I was constantly compromising myself and allowing myself to be treated less and less as I should. But now, I finally understand that I should never settle for someone that doesn’t make me feel like a better person for being with them, or someone who doesn’t encourage me to spread my wings and fly. But Douglas does all of that, and then some.
I wake up every morning and I go to sleep every night, and I’m just thankful, so thankful to have him in my life. He makes me want to be better, to do better and to seek better for my life. He is always encouraging me and holding me to a higher standard, and for once, I finally feel like I’m appreciated. It’s weird feeling so wrapped up in someone again; but this time, this relationship, it’s healthy and I believe it will only benefit me, so I’m not afraid.
I feel like I could write forever about how blessed I am to have someone like him in my life to brighten my days and to put a smile on my face, but I think I’ll just end it with this:
“Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more. You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you. Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special. There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around. You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are. You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day but, in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible. You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares you. You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end. Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile and your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life.”
Patience & Confidence
So, I’ve never posted anything like this before, but I wanted to share this in case it is helpful for other people.
I’m in an LDR right now, and it is definitely difficult. He lives on a completely different continent and we’ve never physically met in person. The only way we really communicate at this point of time is MSN. We are thinking of switching to skype though.
It’s been almost 4 months since we first met, and I have to tell you, the first 2 months were nothing short of amazing. It started to get harder and harder for us to find time for each other though and the long ‘sleepover’ convos eventually stopped. He works so much and our time difference is rather vast, so it doesn’t help. But we do try to make time for each other regardless.
It was the start of 2012 when it really hit me how hard everything was. I started to hear less and less from him as I went on vacation and then he went on vacation shortly after me. Will he finally realize the ridiculousness of our situation? Will he finally walk away from this and look for something that is more convenient? I was scared.
So with all these doubts swimming around in my head, me and him had a short conversation while he was in Fiji. It had been a long time since we chatted, and it felt a bit strained. The next thing I know, I’m jumping to conclusions and misunderstanding what he was saying. I was so certain he was saying it was over, and before I know it, we are both hurting and crying.
I went through the next couple of days in a haze. But I decided to send him an email to apologize for thinking that he wanted to end things. I told him, I didn’t want to give up on us. I sent it and hoped that we could finally talk.
He finally replied and it was the sweetest, most reassuring message. We finally talked everything through and it was rather emotional. But we are even stronger than before.
That little bump in the road made us realize that we are only human and we crave the affection of another. Distance is hard. Really really hard. But we want each other more now. Having doubts is completely normal, but the reason why we didn’t ‘break up’ is because we care about each other enough to maintain strong communication. Patience and having enough confidence in who you and your partner are is so essential. You have to really look past the difficulties and know that despite all the negativity, there is someone amazing right in front of you and if fate is so kind, you’ll be able to be together soon. So chin up!
We have been together for 8 months and we see each other as much as possible (normally once a month for about 1-2 weeks). It gets harder each time we see each other. We see a future together and he will be planning to move in with me in about a year. Tough thing is that I live in the States and he lives in Canada; it’s not that easy for him to live here, especially since he has diabetes and will need medical care but I will go through anything to wake up next to him everyday.
Stay strong! That’s all you need; strength.
The distance between you and me
We came into each others lives with a different intention.
Never knew I’d be into such a different perfection.
A daily text or a phone call, that’s what it took to make us both fall. We didn’t see this coming, no, not at all.
We couldn’t wait to finally be together.
Hang out, make out, life would certainly feel better.
The time we spent? It flew. The love I had for you only grew.
Damn, you have to leave? I already miss you.
The distance between you and me, feels like a thousand miles times three.
Why does distance have to intervene?
I hate how I have to see you through a fucking screen.
I miss you like a fat kid on a diet misses cake, god damn this is such a fucking heartache!
You told me not to shed a tear.
I can’t help it if I want you here,
I need you near!
I’ll make it all happen for us one day, you know I always find a way.
Oh and don’t forget, I love you babe.
(via: nightisaworldlitbyitself )
More than 7,000 miles apart
My name is Abby and my boyfriend’s name is Terry.
We met through facebook on July 21, 2010. He had messaged me saying, “Who’s our worst critic but ourselves. So true!” I heard the quote from my yoga instructor and put it in my about me section. After I replied we instantly became good friends. We talked almost every day, and after 2 weeks we realized we didn’t even know where each lived.
He lives in Brisbane, Australia while I’m stuck in Arizona, USA.
When he told me he lived in Australia I was confused as to how he even found me. But I’m so glad he did. We talked all the time and after 4 months we told each other we had feelings for each other.
I was worried because I’m diabetic and epileptic and it’s bad enough I have to deal with it, I didn’t want someone else to deal with it too. But he told me it was okay….because he has cancer….a tumor in his brain. I was too smitten by him at that point it didn’t bother me that he had medical issues as well.
Well, after 2 weeks we stopped talking. We didn’t talk until Feb of last year. I was so heartbroken, I never thought I’d talk to him again, and I asked him why we stopped talking and he said I never replied back to the last message. Needless to say, we picked up where we left off.
We made it official March 27. It’s been rough, we’ve had our ups and downs. Broken up twice but gotten back together, have had to deal with people not understanding our relationship, and pushing each other away because we don’t want our medical issues to be a burden on each other. Every day is scary, because I don’t know if something has happened to him, and vice versa, but it’s worth it. I’ve never been so in love and neither has he. He plans on flying out to meet me in summer, once he has surgery.
He’s definitely my soul mate….and I found him all thanks to facebook.
(via: disappointments-are-everywhere )
after 3 years
i finally met my boyfriend for the first time on
i live in california and he lives in new hampshire
we have been talking for such a long time, we text, chat, call and thank god for skype. we have had our ups and downs but even though he lives 3,000 miles away he is the only one that i have eyes for.
i must say he was worth the wait, he is my best friend an my partner in crime. i stayed with him for 3 weeks an i got to say it has been perfect, we laughed we cried we hugged we did everything together, i met his family and friends and they all loved me. On Saturday he had to leave me off in the airport and it was the hardest thing to do in my life, we both cried but in the end i had to leave
i finally came back home and it so hard not having him here with me, i miss everything,but i know im going back for the summer its going to be the best.
i can tell you by experience its rough. but it is well worth the wait
if you need anyone to talk to about long distance i’m your gal. it has been the best experience of my life and i wouldn’t want anyone else but him. You fall in love with the most unexpected person in the most unexpected time =,)
(via: sexylittlebombshell )
My name is Nikki, I’m from San Diego and the love of my life lives 2,200 miles away from me in Ohio. We met last year online and immediately clicked on common taste of music. We emailed, facebooked, texted skyped. He became someone I talked to and easily trusted and on June 26, 2011 asked me to be his girlfriend to which I replied, “are you serious?”. I had had the biggest crush on him that I couldn’t believe he felt the same way back. He’s funny, smart, handsome, a bit clueless but he’s also my best friend and I love him. We have sadly not met in person yet but I hope 2012 brings us closer to one another. <3