January 27th
1:40 PM
1:40 PM
a message from Anonymous
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January 26th
8:24 PM
8:24 PM
Kelsey & Mikel—2,120 miles apart
The Story of Us
<3
I always felt like no one understood us or our situatioin. Until I went on Tumblr and found that there are sooo many other couples that know exactly what we’re going through.
Our story is a kind of unexpected one. And one that is hard to explain without being judged or misunderstood. But what the hell, I’ll give it a shot anyway.
Over the summer, going into my senior year of high school, I became very involved with supporting the U.S. troops and began to consider a job in military psychology. But I didn’t know too much about it and I wanted to talk to people who could tell me more. So when a good friend of mine told me a site called Omegle could connect people with common interests, I thought it couldnt hurt. I ended up being connected to a guy that the term “marines” in common with me. I thought it would be so cool to get some insight from someone actually in the military, so I started a conversation.
As it turned out, he was 17, just like me, but lived on the other side of the country. He lives over 2,000 miles away now, and is enlisting in the Marine Corps next year. We had such a good conversation, one that probably lasted 5 hours. He asked me allll about myself and I told him my interests, hobbies, everything. And it wasnt even until about halfway into the conversation that he asked me my gender. He didn’t even ask my age or name until much later. But he was somehow amazed by everything I liked, and kept telling me how I was the perfect girl. We had so much in common. And I’ll never forget when he said something along the lines of “there’s no way a girl like you could be single”. And then I told him I was. At the end of the conversation, I told him how much I loved talking to him and told me he could add me on facebook.
The next day, I left home to take a summer course at a college downstate and I wouldn’t have internet. We talked over facebook IM for a little while and he had given me his number earlier saying I could text him if I ever wanted to. So I did. I texted him allllll the time. And i quickly began to realize what a genuine, amazing, and perfect guy he was. He called me when my roommate went out and I was alone in my dormroom. And he told the funniest and BEST stories. We definitely fell for each other in those 2 weeks. And I couldn’t get enough of him. We planned on skyping when I got home.
The first time we skyped, I was SO unbelievably nervous. I couldn’t for the life of me stay calm. When I first saw his face I couldn’t get over how absolutely perfect he was. I was so nervous about our conversation being awkward and uncomfortable. But MAN was I wrong. We talked nonstop from midnight to 8am. And in those moments where we didn’t know exactly what to say, we stared into each other’s eyes. And as cheesy as it sounds, it didn’t feel weird at all. I loved it. And he was so perfect and amazing.
The rest of the summer, we texted and skyped hours upon hours every day. At one point he was grounded from technology for a couple weeks and I had no way to communicate with him, and no idea why he wouldn’t talk to me. It was soheartbreakingly difficult for me. But I knew he wouldn’t leave me. So I waited, and eventually he was able to talk to me again and tell me what happened. Those couple weeks proved to me how strong of a relationship we have. Because I trusted him with all my heart and knew he would come back if I waited.
Because of my interest in military psychology, I became very interested in a university that was known for having a great psychology program. It just so happens that the university happens to be in the same town he lives in. Since I was already planning on flying over to visit the campus, we agreed to meet up on October 6, 2012. I have been counting down since 87 days, and as we speak, only 29 days remain until I get to hold him in my arms, kiss him, and tell him how muchI love him in person. I honestly cannot wait<3.
It has been about 3 months now, and we are definitely still counting:). I love him with all my heart. I fell in love with who he is as a person, and I know this is real because that’s all that matters. He is my world<3.
WRITTEN: September 8th, 2012
Since then, we have been with each other twice, and both times were amazing and more than we could have wished <3
***PLEASE feel free to ask any questions about our relationship, or ask for advice! I would love to answer:)
Thanks for the support! 
8:21 PM
Hi there! This is Jay (left) and Manda (right) - we met on a forum three or so years ago, and started dating on 10/12/11 before we even met in person. She’s in Las Vegas and I’m in southern New Jersey. At this point, I’ve visited her twice.. and am going again next weekend, but she can’t make it over here until the summer. We’re just trying to make it work until I can move out there - hopefully next year. =)
This is my partner and I. We have been together for four years, travelled halfway across the world to be together two times (first me, then her), spent thousands of dollars, but because of the Australian law we are unable to get legally married (I am a trans man, but legally female). As such, we are only entitled to an unmarried partner visa. If we were able to be legally married, we could apply in Australia for $900, but because of homophobic laws we have to pay either $2000 to apply off-shore or $3000 to apply on-shore.
We currently live in the UK. We moved here to make up the 12 month living together requirement (which can be waived now if you live in one of the states with a relationship register, but wasn’t negotiable a few years ago) and we now have lived together for over two years. Lauren is here on a limited visa which expires in November. I have been working for these two years to save money to apply for this visa, but because of incredibly low wages (most jobs are minimum wage) in the UK coupled with a very high cost of living, the majority of these two years has been spent trying to choose between rent and food.
We now live with abusive people to save on rent (and to be able to afford to eat), but it’s still not enough. I’ve been working hard every day - waking up for work at 5:45am and not getting home until 7pm - but it’s not enough. I’ve tried to get better paying jobs but they’re just not out there. Lauren is unable to work due to severe physical and mental health issues, which remain untreated because the NHS simply does not care.
I want to take her home so she can get the care she needs, so we can leave this abusive environment (if we stay here, we will have no choice but to live here literally forever because we won’t be able to afford rent), and so we can both live a decent quality of life.
We have everything stacked against us, low-paying job, health problems, expensive visa. I am at a loss.
After all this time, we have minimal savings. We cannot even afford the flights to Australia at this point. We allow ourselves to spend £20 on food every week, and Lauren skips meals to help us save.
Please, if you can spare even a few cents, we would be incredibly grateful. If you don’t want to donate, we would very much appreciate a reblog/signal boost.- Tom M.
So my mother just spent 25 minutes (the clock was behind her) hurling abuse at me and Lauren about my transsexualism, shouting at me for taking testosterone and telling me I was hurting her through being transsexual and then accusing me of being aggressive when I tried, in a calm tone, to explain that I had to take hormones to save my own life. She then shouted at Lauren for defending me and brought her to tears.
We really need to get out of here quick, and of course we appreciate what we have already been given (often by complete strangers!), but I’m reblogging this again in the hopes that someone can help us out more or reblog this post. It would mean so much. We are hopeless right now.
signal boost!!!
goosebumps/ tears/ heart ache/ empathy
I hope everything gets sorted for you both asap <3 x
August 19th
10:38 PM
10:38 PM
a message from Anonymous
how far do you consider to be 'long distance'? like, how far does it have to be to be classed as a long distance relationship?
I don’t think there are a certain about of miles that indicates when a relationship is long distance. You could be half an hour away or half the world away, and if it is making you to not see each other as much as you’d like, I would consider it long distance.
Me and my boyfriend were living about 4 hrs, from each other. To some, they wouldn’t consider that “real” long distance. But it kept us about. And it doesn’t matter is he’s four hrs away or 4 timezones away, if I can’t see him for months at a time, isn’t it all the same?
